She was by her mother's side everyday....EVERYDAY through her battle. My friend married during this time and was able to share this moment with her mother......sadly she would lose her less than a year later. Tammy withdrew from just about everyone. She and her husband divorced ......and she isolated me from her life. We had been very close.....I did everything I knew to do to help.....I even let go......
She and I have a shared love for all things Disney. Her favs are Goofy and Eeyore. I took my niece to Disney World for Spring Break.
I bought some writing pens back that had different characters on them for a few friends. I work with Tammy's sister so I gave one to her......I did not bring anything back for her. Mind you that we had not been speaking for a while now so I was just not moved to do so......I think this is when it really hit her that I had let go.
Tammy and I slowly started talking again here and there. Last year, 3 months after I had received the news that my Brooke was going to have a baby....Tammy called to tell me that she was pregnant. It was not the most ideal time....not married.....total shock....you get the idea. It's not that I had doubts that she could do it....she had just always been the one without kids and I just couldn't picture it.
I have been around alot of babies and mothers but Tammy was the first one that I actually felt and witnessed her turn into a mother. From the second he was born she was 100% a mom. I had never seen her this way but I knew THEN that God was working in her life. This baby was ment to be.....it didn't come at the time she felt was right but God did.
She has pretty much raised him on her own and I know now that when she was taking care of her mother that this was God's way of preparing her for taking care of her baby.
Jim and Tammy started dating after he was born. He has always been very helpful to her with the baby. He has had lots of practice.....he has 3 children of his own!
They married last weekend.......my single friend has become a mother and wife...and only God knew how to prepare her for these roles. You hear it over and over but sometimes it is hard to understand........God really is in control, whatever he has you going thru in your life...he has a reason for it.
I have things in my life that I question him about often......but then all too often he shows me why. We all are here for a reason.....not for all the same reason...when you feel that you are called to do certain things you should do it to the best of your abilty.
I'm so thankful for the things that God has done for me in my life. The road has not be easy....but he never promised it would be. I'm at peace with things that may never be but at the same time anxious to see what he will call me to do next...........I'm hoping that it is a vacation!!!
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Hey Sweeeet Friend!!!
What a great post. The people around you are very BLESSED to have you in their lives!!!!
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